Help! My Spouse Committed Adultery: First Steps for Dealing with Betrayal

Help! My Spouse Committed Adultery

First Steps for Dealing with Betrayal

Your spouse was unfaithful. Those four words don’t begin to do justice to the horror you are experiencing. Rage, fear, grief, and even numbness are all normal responses to the shock of betrayal.

The pain of betrayal is like touching a hot stove. Your instinct is to move away fast. But marriage and family counselor Winston T. Smith urges you to not make any quick decisions about the future of your marriage, to instead go to God with your hurt and pain. He also offers practical, biblical advice on how to talk with your spouse about the adultery, how to set boundaries, and how to process your emotions in a godly way.

About the Author

Winston T. Smith, M.Div., is a counselor and faculty member at the Christian Counseling & Educational Foundation (CCEF) and has extensive experience as a marriage and family counselor, and teaches seminary students how to counsel couples. He has been counseling for more than fifteen years and holds a Master of Divinity degree from Westminster Theological Seminary.

Winston Smith is the author of Marriage Matters as well as the minibooks Divorce Recovery: Growing and Healing God’s Way; Help for Stepfamilies: Avoiding the Pitfalls and Learning to Love; It’s All about Me: The Problem with Masturbation; Who Does the Dishes? Decision Making in Marriage; and Burned Out? Trusting God with Your “To-Do” List.

Other Books in the Series

-Angry Children: Understanding and Helping Your Child Regain Control by Michael R. Emlet
-Breaking the Addictive Cycle: Deadly Obsessions or Simple Pleasures? by David Powlison
-Can We Talk? The Art of Relationship Building by Rob Green
-Dealing with Rejection by Jack Miller
-Divorce Recovery: Growing and Healing God’s Way by Winston Smith
-Eating Disorders: The Quest for Thinness by Edward T. Welch
-Family Feuds: How to Respond by Timothy S. Lane
-Freedom from Addiction: Turning from Your Compulsive Behavior by Edward T. Welch
-Freedom from Resentment: Stopping Hurts from Turning Bitter by Robert D. Jones
-Grief: Finding Hope Again by Paul David Tripp
-Help for Stepfamilies: Avoiding the Pitfalls and Learning to Love by Winston T. Smith
-Hope for the Depressed: Beyond a Cheer Up Theology by Edward T. Welch
-I Just Want to Die: Replacing Suicidal Thoughts with Hope by David Powlison
-Leaving Your Family Behind: Preparing for Military Deployment by Rob Green
-Making Friends: Beyond Loneliness to Rich Relationships by Dee Brestin
-Overcoming Anxiety: Relief for Worried People by David Powlison
-Peer Pressure: Recognizing the Warning Signs and Giving New Direction by Paul David Tripp
-PTSD: Healing for Bad Memories by Timothy Lane
-Restoring Your Broken Marriage: Healing after Adultery by Robert D. Jones
-Sex Before Marriage: How Far is Too Far? by Timothy S. Lane
-Sexual Assault: Healing Steps for Victims by David Powlison
-Should We Get Married?: How to Evaluate Your Relationship by William P. Smith
-Single Parents: Daily Grace for the Hardest Job by Robert D. Jones
-When Bad Things Happen: Thoughtful Answers to Hard Questions by William P. Smith
-When the Money Runs Out: Hope and Help for the Financially Stressed by James C. Petty
-When Your Kid’s in Trouble: How to Intervene Constructively by William P. Smith