It’s Not That Complicated (Anna Sofia Botkin & Elizabeth Botkin)

It’s Not That Complicated

How to Relate to Guys in a Healthy, Sane, and Biblical Way

Ever been confused about friendships with boys? How does a girl handle crushes? How friendly is being too friendly? And how close is too close? Or, what do you do when a guy is being way too friendly? And what do guys think about all this? What does it mean to be a “sister, in all purity”? (1 Timothy 5:2)

Guy-girl relationships have always been complicated, but perhaps never more so than today. It’s Not That Complicated is a humorous, hopeful, and deeply thought-provoking new look at guy-girl relationships in our times.

Dealing practically with such complications as online interaction, Hollywood expectations, undefined relationships, and unrequited love, the Botkin sisters offer enduring biblical principles that can make it all much simpler.

Endorsement by Dr. Voddie Baucham

“How do young men and young women interact with one another when marriage is not in view? Can young men and young women be ‘friends’? And how does a young woman guard her heart, preserve her purity, and walk in integrity without treating young men with disdain? In It’s Not That Complicated, Anna Sofia and Elizabeth Botkin address these and other questions with wisdom, grace, transparency, and biblical acuity.”

— Dr. Voddie Baucham Jr., Pastor, Grace Family Baptist Church, Spring, Texas and author of many books on relationships

Contents

• Foreword by Dr. Voddie Baucham
• Why We Wrote This Book and How to Read it

1. The Relationship Minefield: What Makes Guy-Girl Relationships so Complicated?
2. Why We’re Interested in Boys: (And Why That is a Good Thing)
3. Boys are People Too: Learning to See Men as God Sees Them
4. Relationship Boot Camp: Back to Square One – How to be a Sister to Your Real Brothers
5. Wounding Friend or Kissing Enemy?: Reforming our Philosophy of Relationships
6. Slaying the Inner Vamp: When the Female of the Species is More Deadly Than the Male
7. The Heart: Victim or Perpetrator?  Getting Your Heart to Follow YOU
8. That’s Why You Have Parents: How to Draw Strength, Wisdom, and Protection from your Father and Mother
9. Rules of Engagement: Practical Tips on Instruction and Conversation
10. Playing with Matches: Meddling with Other People’s Relationships
11. Will You Be My “It’s Complicated”?  How to Just Say No to the Wrong Kinds of Relationships
12. What a Man Needs at His Side: How to Become a Girl a Man Would Want as a Wife as Well as a Friend
13. Not Another Chapter on Contentment: How to Occupy Until He Comes

• Appendix A: A Word to Fathers from Geoffrey Botkin
• Appendix B: A Word to Mothers from Victoria Botkin

About the Authors

Anna Sofia and Elizabeth Botkin are the authors of So Much More and It’s Not That Complicated, producers of the documentary Return of the Daughters and the Reclaiming Beauty Study Course.  More importantly, they’re the daughters of Geoffrey and Victoria Botkin, and live and work with their family in central Tennessee.